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raxvulpine.
My timing, granted, was not the best. But I didn't think they'd take it that badly. I had indications of ambivalence.
To sum up:
- This is an immoral lifestyle. Ethically and religiously it is wrong.
- I "shouldn't settle for girls." Because no boys have wanted to date me and I like girls too and this girl likes me too doesn't mean I should date girls.
- It is partly a choice that I am this way. Because it is possible for me to like boys, I should have chosen otherwise.
- I am not to tell my grandparents. [I wasn't really thinking about it now, but what if they stick around for another 5, 10 years? This was not phrased as a choice or request.]
- I should never have children because it's wrong to bring them into that kind of lifestyle.
- My friends and my college were/are safe environments for this and I don't know what I've gotten myself into; I have not thought through the social consequences. [I read the paper and follow the news; I see the people getting beat up every other week--and this in Massachusetts! Do they think I'm oblivious to a topic which concerns me so much?]
- You can have strong feelings for a girl but those aren't really love.
- I will have a hard life and be totally ostracized.
- This has left us "questioning our parenting skills."
- My parents were worried about my living in the Congery [nee Gerbilhouse] because I might have caught a cold living among so many people but I "can catch things other than colds," too [aka, 'your friends turned you gay!']
- I should lose weight [true, but with the subtext "then you will feel better about yourself and look more attractive and boys will start to like you and hit on you and you'll date them instead and magically stop loving this girl."]
So. Further news as things progress.
raxvulpine.My timing, granted, was not the best. But I didn't think they'd take it that badly. I had indications of ambivalence.
To sum up:
- This is an immoral lifestyle. Ethically and religiously it is wrong.
- I "shouldn't settle for girls." Because no boys have wanted to date me and I like girls too and this girl likes me too doesn't mean I should date girls.
- It is partly a choice that I am this way. Because it is possible for me to like boys, I should have chosen otherwise.
- I am not to tell my grandparents. [I wasn't really thinking about it now, but what if they stick around for another 5, 10 years? This was not phrased as a choice or request.]
- I should never have children because it's wrong to bring them into that kind of lifestyle.
- My friends and my college were/are safe environments for this and I don't know what I've gotten myself into; I have not thought through the social consequences. [I read the paper and follow the news; I see the people getting beat up every other week--and this in Massachusetts! Do they think I'm oblivious to a topic which concerns me so much?]
- You can have strong feelings for a girl but those aren't really love.
- I will have a hard life and be totally ostracized.
- This has left us "questioning our parenting skills."
- My parents were worried about my living in the Congery [nee Gerbilhouse] because I might have caught a cold living among so many people but I "can catch things other than colds," too [aka, 'your friends turned you gay!']
- I should lose weight [true, but with the subtext "then you will feel better about yourself and look more attractive and boys will start to like you and hit on you and you'll date them instead and magically stop loving this girl."]
So. Further news as things progress.
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5/4/06 02:04 (UTC)...
I don't know what to say right now.
I will go finish making cookies and talk to my girlfriend.