My father was more the: Me eldest male, my house so I'm right(even when he was dead wrong). It's a basic testosterone poisoning problem amplified by male-think propaganda.
As for the many years of past comments, it does seem it was to be expected. Likely you had hopes it wouldn't be in your face so quickly. It is ok to feel offended, but it would serve you better to not feel such obligation at fixing who and what they are. I do know it is difficult at drawing the line at disappointment and not be baited into a screaming match. Knowing each other enough to know exactly how to push for maximum disaster. Them winning in their minds with the "see how unreasonable our daughter is" moments, turning the clock back mentally to teenager.
I can only suggest to not play their game or by their rules, knowing no true solution to the overall problem that would be ideal. Just thinking how best for your to protect yourself without feeling a need for fighting them. It's not a tougher skin but a realization that only you can disturb your inner peace. Just that they know how to help you hurt that peace.
Meanwhile: seek work, save money, and then start seeking employment elsewhere (or at the very least different housing). Fixing them is in no way your primary goal.
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27/11/11 21:11 (UTC)As for the many years of past comments, it does seem it was to be expected. Likely you had hopes it wouldn't be in your face so quickly. It is ok to feel offended, but it would serve you better to not feel such obligation at fixing who and what they are. I do know it is difficult at drawing the line at disappointment and not be baited into a screaming match. Knowing each other enough to know exactly how to push for maximum disaster. Them winning in their minds with the "see how unreasonable our daughter is" moments, turning the clock back mentally to teenager.
I can only suggest to not play their game or by their rules, knowing no true solution to the overall problem that would be ideal. Just thinking how best for your to protect yourself without feeling a need for fighting them. It's not a tougher skin but a realization that only you can disturb your inner peace. Just that they know how to help you hurt that peace.
Meanwhile: seek work, save money, and then start seeking employment elsewhere (or at the very least different housing). Fixing them is in no way your primary goal.