I don't think you have to defend your reputation to people who know you; we won't think poorly of you in RL or otherwise--unless you make a mistake, don't understand what it is you did, and are too busy taking offense to ask what you did and learn from the experience to stop making the mistake.
I think that buria_q is suggesting that maybe since you are a self-described 'fledgling feminist,' it would behoove you to go read more about feminisim before pointing other people you've just met toward feminism 101 blogs, which has an implication of "you too are at a basic level of theory and understanding," which I understand that buria_q is not.
You may not like the way in which she is suggesting that, or may not have picked up on the suggestion because you felt personally attacked, but I think it's a valid one, since you yourself have said that you want to learn more about feminist theory and thought. Buria_q is also suggesting that you learn more about feminist theory and thought, which is one of the things feminists do to help each other along.
Can I suggest a way you might do that?
I think you should go read buria_q's own blog for 6 months. Read the blogs of friends and theorists and writers that she links to for the next six months. Read other blogs. Read books. Talk to people. When you feel the need to comment and disagree with someone, try to let that pass and see what other people have to say. Just listen, and learn from those whose experience of life and their take on feminism is different from yours. I guarantee it will be difficult, but it will also be awesome.
(I'm also going to start reading her blog, since I don't know her at all, but she took the time to comment here and pointed out a problem with the approach I took in this post.)
Note: I am going to post at some later date on people's comments here. I got about 1/2 way through trying to respond last night and then got sidetracked by dinner and realized I was stressing out too much about it and would come back later with a clear head, but am sick today so am going to take medicine and come back to sleep.
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27/8/09 14:01 (UTC)I don't think you have to defend your reputation to people who know you; we won't think poorly of you in RL or otherwise--unless you make a mistake, don't understand what it is you did, and are too busy taking offense to ask what you did and learn from the experience to stop making the mistake.
I think that buria_q is suggesting that maybe since you are a self-described 'fledgling feminist,' it would behoove you to go read more about feminisim before pointing other people you've just met toward feminism 101 blogs, which has an implication of "you too are at a basic level of theory and understanding," which I understand that buria_q is not.
You may not like the way in which she is suggesting that, or may not have picked up on the suggestion because you felt personally attacked, but I think it's a valid one, since you yourself have said that you want to learn more about feminist theory and thought. Buria_q is also suggesting that you learn more about feminist theory and thought, which is one of the things feminists do to help each other along.
Can I suggest a way you might do that?
I think you should go read buria_q's own blog for 6 months. Read the blogs of friends and theorists and writers that she links to for the next six months. Read other blogs. Read books. Talk to people. When you feel the need to comment and disagree with someone, try to let that pass and see what other people have to say. Just listen, and learn from those whose experience of life and their take on feminism is different from yours. I guarantee it will be difficult, but it will also be awesome.
(I'm also going to start reading her blog, since I don't know her at all, but she took the time to comment here and pointed out a problem with the approach I took in this post.)
Note: I am going to post at some later date on people's comments here. I got about 1/2 way through trying to respond last night and then got sidetracked by dinner and realized I was stressing out too much about it and would come back later with a clear head, but am sick today so am going to take medicine and come back to sleep.