Relationship & Sex Blog Opt-On

[eredien]

I had started thinking about keeping a relationships and sex blog before rax 's and my recent breakup, and have now decided that it is more important than ever for me to start one.

I realize that to some of you the idea about blogging (rather than simply privately journaling) about relationships and sex may seem crass or too uncomfortably open, and I have to say that while I do not agree with your opinion--I think a blog, any blog, can be a tool for both private and public conversation and reflection in a way that a private journal cannot be--I don't want people who won't want to read about things that will make them uncomfortable to feel like the idea of my writing about this stuff was going to be sprung on them. So, I'm going to keep this post up top for several weeks, so people can really give consideration to whether they want to be on my new relationships and sex blog friends-list, or not.

I will probably start writing in said blog later today.

Please comment below if you would like to opt-ON to the friends list for the new blog. Otherwise, you will not be on it.

You can also ask questions, etc.

Thanks!

Comments

[eredien]

I am going to say the same thing I said to kelkyag: that I am not capable of making a decision for you about if you want to read this blog or not.

I figured that you personally would, and since you said "yes" here I put you on, but yes, I want to ask everyone, even you.

Enthusiastic (or at least clear) consent is really, really important here for me, and is a really important concept for me right now, when so much else is unclear.

*hug*

[blushingflower.livejournal.com]

I understand why you're asking. The text may not convey the proper affectionately teasing tone of that statement.

I tend to approach filters differently, in that I put people on the filters I'm ok with them reading, and I figure people can scroll past what they don't want to read. And I always feel awkward opting in, because I don't like to ask people for things they may not want to give me.

But again, I understand why you feel the need to ask.

[eredien]

And I always feel awkward opting in,
because I don't like to ask people for things they may not want to give
me.

I would rather ask people what they wanted me to give them and have them tell me that they might not want to give the thing to me, than accidentally give them something that was actively harmful to them by not asking.