Relationship & Sex Blog Opt-On

[eredien]

I had started thinking about keeping a relationships and sex blog before rax 's and my recent breakup, and have now decided that it is more important than ever for me to start one.

I realize that to some of you the idea about blogging (rather than simply privately journaling) about relationships and sex may seem crass or too uncomfortably open, and I have to say that while I do not agree with your opinion--I think a blog, any blog, can be a tool for both private and public conversation and reflection in a way that a private journal cannot be--I don't want people who won't want to read about things that will make them uncomfortable to feel like the idea of my writing about this stuff was going to be sprung on them. So, I'm going to keep this post up top for several weeks, so people can really give consideration to whether they want to be on my new relationships and sex blog friends-list, or not.

I will probably start writing in said blog later today.

Please comment below if you would like to opt-ON to the friends list for the new blog. Otherwise, you will not be on it.

You can also ask questions, etc.

Thanks!

Comments

[earis.livejournal.com]

I'll opt-on! I like education.

[meanfreepath.livejournal.com]

I'm comfortable to be on if you are.

[ephiphonora.livejournal.com]

I may not post much at all, but I do read others' journals. Count me in please.

[sovay]

Please comment below if you would like to opt-ON to the friends list for the new blog. Otherwise, you will not be on it.

If you do not object, please.

[daisho.livejournal.com]

I assume anyone you'd prefer not to read the new blog has already been filtered from seeing this post, so I'm interested in reading, please.

[baniszew.livejournal.com]

I would read it.

[silussa.livejournal.com]

No objection here, although for various reasons you may want to reconsider in my case.

[koshiii.livejournal.com]

Opt on, please

[gallian.livejournal.com]

Opting in.

[thoughtsdriftby.livejournal.com]

If it doesn't make you uncomfortable, then on
feelings not hurt if such holds you back
--
Anvil*

[eredien]

I can't tell you how often it might be about sex vs relationships. I don't separate out those things in my head so well because I think that sex is a relationship with yourself as well as those around you.

However, if you are comfortable being on I will add you.

[eredien]

Thank you.

[eredien]

I put the "click for explicit content" thing on; will that do? I don't really always want to say I will want to or even remember to cut tag everything.

[eredien]

Yes, it is ok to decide to opt out later.

[eredien]

I...am not capable of making a decision for you about if you want to read this blog or not. If you want to read it, I need a "yes I want to read it." Thanks for your understanding.

[eredien]

I am going to say the same thing I said to kelkyag: that I am not capable of making a decision for you about if you want to read this blog or not.

I figured that you personally would, and since you said "yes" here I put you on, but yes, I want to ask everyone, even you.

Enthusiastic (or at least clear) consent is really, really important here for me, and is a really important concept for me right now, when so much else is unclear.

*hug*

[eredien]

Hi there. Yes, talking would be good.

[eredien]

Actually, nope. This post is open to the entire internet. I figure that anyone who doesn't want to read the blog is going to be sensible enough not to show up in this thread and complain that they don't want to read something I'm not making them read--and if they're not, then too bad!

[blushingflower.livejournal.com]

I understand why you're asking. The text may not convey the proper affectionately teasing tone of that statement.

I tend to approach filters differently, in that I put people on the filters I'm ok with them reading, and I figure people can scroll past what they don't want to read. And I always feel awkward opting in, because I don't like to ask people for things they may not want to give me.

But again, I understand why you feel the need to ask.

[eredien]

And I always feel awkward opting in,
because I don't like to ask people for things they may not want to give
me.

I would rather ask people what they wanted me to give them and have them tell me that they might not want to give the thing to me, than accidentally give them something that was actively harmful to them by not asking.

[kelkyag]

I would be interested but do not want to intrude. They aren't topics I would bring up casually, but I have very high privacy boundaries, and don't know yours particularly well. (I'm also not entirely sure of my balance between interest as a friend and idle curiosity, which always makes me a little uncomfortable.) So yes, I would like to read, but your whim on the subject overrides mine.

[autumnesquirrel.livejournal.com]

I would like to read this. Thank you.

[darthbitsy.livejournal.com]

I'd be interested, but I'm not sure how I feel about giving you similar access to my thoughts, so whatever your comfortable with.

[rivenwanderer.livejournal.com]

Ehn, after thinking about it I think I can scroll past if needed. So never mind, sorry for the bother :)

[jessiehl.livejournal.com]

If you are comfortable with me being on I would like to opt on.