That situation with your parents sounds really horrible. I'm relieved to hear that you can do what you need to do to be healthy and happy.

Also, I can possibly escalate the recovery of your gmail account. I think I just need some other email address to contact you with and need to know if you've:

1) Tried to reset your password here: https://www.google.com/accounts/recovery/
2) Filled out the account recovery form here: https://www.google.com/support/accounts/bin/request.py