Thanks, guys! I will let you know if there is stuff you can do to help, if you want to be involved. For further and more detailed thoughts about my feelings on admission or not of FTM students, please see my longish reply to Gaudior below.

But if either or any of you have any more questions, let me know. Like I said, I have been researching this and turning it over in my mind for a while, but it's impossible to know everything, and at some point one must just go ahead with what one feels is right. I actually agree with you about BMC not going co-ed for undergraduate programs, and that is a large part of why I find admitting FTM students but not MTF students problematic; I feel like the students' gender identity is being totally disrespected by the school and the school is also disrespecting its students and therefore, its mission of education. But I also think that when men's-only schools say they want to stay mens'-only schools, they should be allowed to--surely there are historical gender discrepancies to address, but if one main gender gets a school with a culture build in large part around gender identity, the other main gender should also be allowed to have and cultivate the same, if we truly believe there is nothing wrong, and much to be celebrated, about crafting our identities around any gender identification(s).

I haven't heard back from the admissions office yet; I will let folks know when I do.