I'm not gonna correct you again, but seriously, the examples you are putting forth here of queer support, and the language you are using, are not good examples of queer support. They are bad examples. They make me think that because your roommates didn't care if you called them or you fags, that you don't see anything wrong with the word "fag" at all, and that's a big problem that is going to make a lot of people just dismiss your support for queer people right off the bat because you don't even seem to understand why calling someone queer might be considered insulting. Your "herm" example makes me think that you know that intersexed people exist, but don't actually care about them as people, because if you had done some research or even looked it up on wikipedia, you probably could have figured out that most intersexed people think "herm" is a huge freaking insult. Instead, you relied on me to correct your language and then basically said, "well, I didn't know." You didn't. That's a problem. It's not my responsibility to educate you about queer people. Get started learning. I hope that you will come to know yourself better, too. :)
It's not my objective to fight with you and belittle you. It's simply my objective to say, "if you want to support queer people, I'm telling you as a friend this is a really bad way of supporting queer people, because it hurts them, and you don't even know enough to know that it does. Fix that, for yourself and for others around you. It's not my job to do it; I can't put knowledge in your head. But shape up your act enough to know at least that the way you are talking is hurting me so that you can stop it, or else don't be suprised when you come around here, trying to support me but continually hurting me instead, and wonder why saying "but I didn't know I was hurting you" will get you ignored or banned. Figure out why you're hurting me so that you can stop doing it, or else I will assume that even though I've told you outright that you need to change to stop hurting me you don't care enough to stop hurting me, and that's not a person I want as a friend."
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It's not my objective to fight with you and belittle you. It's simply my objective to say, "if you want to support queer people, I'm telling you as a friend this is a really bad way of supporting queer people, because it hurts them, and you don't even know enough to know that it does. Fix that, for yourself and for others around you. It's not my job to do it; I can't put knowledge in your head. But shape up your act enough to know at least that the way you are talking is hurting me so that you can stop it, or else don't be suprised when you come around here, trying to support me but continually hurting me instead, and wonder why saying "but I didn't know I was hurting you" will get you ignored or banned. Figure out why you're hurting me so that you can stop doing it, or else I will assume that even though I've told you outright that you need to change to stop hurting me you don't care enough to stop hurting me, and that's not a person I want as a friend."